Should a Wife Be the Spiritual Head of the Home?

       A conviction about an issue and a Biblical commandment are two different things. I may have a conviction about wearing pants, which is my own, but the Bible is clear on modesty regardless if you wear pants or dresses

     When reading what the Bible says, it is important to make sure that I am applying the Bible correctly to my life and not putting off what someone else says as their conviction. The Bible is clear on the role of the husband and wife. The husband is the head.

     Ephesians 5:22-23..., "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body." The Bible does not separate between spiritual and physical head. The Bible clearly states that the husband is the head of the wife. 

 Why? 

      The husband 's job is to love his wife, protect her, be a covering for her. That's what God intended with a husband. Why do you think men throughout the ages have been the tougher ones, defending their ladies honor? It's in them to do this!

         Just to clarify, I am not saying that a wife does not need her own personal relationship with Christ.  She must be led by God everyday.  However, a true spiritual Christian woman is going to allow God to lead her not only in spiritual matter but in the home and in her marriage.  By allowing her husband to be the spiritual leader, she is obeying God.

     There are times when a husband does not take the role he is supposed to as the spiritual head of the home. Christ is his head, and he will deal with that husband accordingly. It is not our place to rule our husbands. 

      I Timothy 2:12 is clear on this. "But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence." Does that mean we don't have an opinion? No, absolutely not. But ladies we must use tact, even which at times I lack, with our husbands. 

      Either way, the Bible is clear that the husband is the head of the home and there is no separation of spiritual or physical. 

      If your husband is not taking the role of head as you think he should, talk to God about it. You see, if Christ is his head, then he will convict him about such matters. Keep doing what you know to do to be spiritually fit, having devotions, being faithful to church, loving your husband (like it talks about in Titus 2:4-5), praying for him and your family. God will work on him and you will be blessed for it.

      I pray that you will allow the Lord to lead you to a life of a submissive, loving, cherished marriage.  This can only happen when we follow God's design for the home.

JJ